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Romancing Yourself

How about a solo date you can really love? One that isn't instagrammable, that isn't for show? Interested? Keep reading below.

The Date Yourself trope is strong in February. And I’m all for it, but now that Valentine’s day is over can we forgo all that performance anxiety in making our solo dates perfect and instagram worthy?

Of making our self-seduction look epic? How about a different, softer approach? A solo date where you get linger over beautiful and pleasurable things? And no one needs to know about it.

When was the last time you indulged in a guilty pleasure that didn’t involve your TV? Thought so. So why not carve out some alone time this week to do something indulgent and meandering, just for you? When was the last time you read a favorite book that nobody but you needs to know about, whether that’s chick lit, a great book, or a romance?

When was the last time you browsed through favorite home decor/food/travel/fashion/cosmo magazines? Or how about took a walk, not for the steps in your fitbit but to stroll for pleasure? A walk on the beach, at sunset or in a favorite neighborhood? When was the last you went window licking, as the French call window shopping? No intention of buying, just to look? Lingered over the shelves of bookstores, art stores, knitting shops… We all have our personal hotspots for meandering.

When was the last time you indulged in a new hobby or messed around in an old one without needing the project to turn out? When was the last time you waited until everyone was gone and tried out a fab new baking recipe that’s weird and only you could love? Or mucked about in the garden just to be out there, not with a real purpose? Plunked out a tune on the piano for no reason?

What about grabbing a coffee and just letting yourself people watch? Or doing brunch alone in a bistro on a rainy day? Indulged in a long soak in a bubble bath for no reason with a glass of prosecco and a playlist of slow sexy tunes? This week make it point to schedule out 30 minutes to an hour to just be, to linger over your favorite kind of things. You’ll thank me for it later.



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